Pre-marrital sex and morals. Where has it gone wrong?

Ya know, I wonder all the time why so many people give in to pre-marrital sex. Why it isn't frowned upon anymore... why it is so widely excepted and expected as the norm. Why? What point in time in our history did we stop caring about what GOD wants? We can apply every other commandment to our lives but that one is exempt? I hear more and more from parents my age saying that when their child is a teenager they will educate them on safe sex but not teach them the value of saving their virginity for marriage because it's not a realistic value and they feel their child should have the ultimate choice on what they want to do with their body at such a young age.


I am now a married mother of two beautiful girls. I have been married for over 3 yrs, but not a day goes by that I wish I would have saved myself for my husband. See while I was growing up I was told about the value of marriage, but it was never really reinforced so to speak. And I definetly wasn't surrounded by many people who held any values when it came to that. All my friends were doing it and encouraged it... sex was something that was very openly talked about all around me. I'm not saying my parents didn't do a good job, cause they did the best they could. They instilled some very good morals in me such as STAYING married at all costs and working through even the hardest of hardships. But things were different for me growing up. And a number of things from my past were definetly some ill contributors of my early permiscuity. No one really expressed how much it sucks to not have saved yourself for your future spouse. I didn't have any support. Now I have a younger sister who is 17 and at that age where she is very curious. And I explain my reasoning behind waiting till marriage to her on a frequent basis because I love her so much and want her to be able to give that gift to her future spouse and never have any regrets from her past. If she will wait, I cannot honestly say but this is mainly why I created this blog... I want to share this with teens and the world, I want them to know that it is OKAY to wait until marriage, and just because everyone else is doing it does not mean that you have to.


I want teens and young adults to know that there is support out there and that it is the road less traveled. God said that the gate to Heaven is very narrow and only a few will find it (Matthew 7:14) and that rings true to the decisions we make everyday. Many of your friends may be doing it, and they may criticize you and alienate you for choosing to remain chaste. But you should look at the bigger picture... shouldn't you care more about the wishes of God rather than what your friends think? Don't make decisions based on other peoples feelings, base them on your own and what you feel is right and know is right. 


So much jealousy comes with past sexual encounters. You can get married one day and constantly feel this jealousy towards your spouses ex-lovers and the reason for that is because God designed sex to be between a married man and woman. We were meant to have only one sexual partner in our lifetime. Sex outside of marriage also brings much heart ache, because when you have sex with someone you are not only giving them your body but you are conjoining souls, becoming one. So when things turn sour your soul is left broken and wounded. One of the many reasons I myself wish that I had saved myself for marriage.


To break it down, sex outside of marriage can bring on so many negative things into your life.. to name a few:


*heartache and breakups
*sexually transmitted diseases
*teen pregnancy
*disgusting labels given by your peers
*destroyed reputation
*jealousy
*anger
*infidelity
*trust issues
*and most importantly, it is a sin against GOD 


The greatest gift you could give to your future husband/wife, yourself, and GOD is the gift of abstaining from sex until marriage.


Become friends before you ever become lovers. Get to know eachother inside and out. Then grow in your love. Court eachother but stand strong in your bounderies. Dont give in to temptation. If you really love eachother, you will be able to respect eachothers decisions and wait until marriage.




Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance ... love will last forever!
~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4OK9DmLpCY&feature=g-all-u

Remember, only through God can you grow together as one. The closer you become with God, the closer you will be in your marriage 



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"Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God. Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each others faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one spirit just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, and one God and Father, who is over all and in all and living through all"
~Ephesians 4:1-6

 Just a few amazing videos I wanted to share that were written by such an inspirational man and child of God

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